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Professionalism/Likability vs Abilities/Performance

I (30/F) started a new job this year and for the first time ever I actually love the office culture. I really like my coworkers despite me being on the shyer side, and not in like a “workplace cult-y” way. It just seems like a healthy workplace and after having a really bad work experience, it's so refreshing (even if I'm still preemptively hoping it doesn't all fall apart). I genuinely thought the role was a great match for me and I'm deeply passionate about the work I do. However there is a skills gap and I think some anxiety, and potentially inattentive ADHD involved (I got a diagnosis this year but it was so easy to get and I'm kind of convinced that it's just symptoms of late capitalism but I digress). I feel like the actual work I produce is shit. I don't get much feedback other than…


I (30/F) started a new job this year and for the first time ever I actually love the office culture. I really like my coworkers despite me being on the shyer side, and not in like a “workplace cult-y” way. It just seems like a healthy workplace and after having a really bad work experience, it's so refreshing (even if I'm still preemptively hoping it doesn't all fall apart).

I genuinely thought the role was a great match for me and I'm deeply passionate about the work I do. However there is a skills gap and I think some anxiety, and potentially inattentive ADHD involved (I got a diagnosis this year but it was so easy to get and I'm kind of convinced that it's just symptoms of late capitalism but I digress). I feel like the actual work I produce is shit.

I don't get much feedback other than corrections on work I do and it feels like this happens every day. I fuck up a lot. Quite frankly it's ruining my self-esteem which makes me screw up more, I think.

I'm deeply afraid of asking for honest feedback – it's one of those things where it's like, “i know I suck but I don't want to have that confirmed by my boss.”

I've always been fearful about getting fired from a job and frankly I think I've underperformed in every job I've had (this is my fifth job in my career and I've yet to get fired from one).

But I come to work everyday cordial, enthusiastic, dressing really well, and engaging with my coworkers. I do feel valued by the rest of the team – who I don't directly work with.

I'm not entirely sure of what my question is but I guess I'd ask: is fitting into workplace culture more important than performance? At what point will sucking in my position outweigh being a valued member of the organization?

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