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[Question] For my job, I cannot disconnect, cannot stop thinking of, and persistently focus on how much of life is missed

I feel that work burns so much of my life away, far after work becuase of the time it requires to complete things (usually greater than 8hours), and I cannot “turn off” my brain because I’m constantly worrying about undone issues, what could be questioned on the status of, and how far behind we are on some things making me believe that the optics are bad, and thus need to come back and continue working after a “break” “after” work. So much of life is missed because of work: Time with family and our animals is sparse, unable to have time to move and workout to the needs of my body and mind, unless it’s the weekends, and persistence focusing on “what’s next” or trying to work in advance to be able to reclaim time or be less taxed tomorrow. Resentment I have towards the job because of these (missing…


  1. I feel that work burns so much of my life away, far after work becuase of the time it requires to complete things (usually greater than 8hours), and I cannot “turn off” my brain because I’m constantly worrying about undone issues, what could be questioned on the status of, and how far behind we are on some things making me believe that the optics are bad, and thus need to come back and continue working after a “break” “after” work.

  2. So much of life is missed because of work:
    Time with family and our animals is sparse, unable to have time to move and workout to the needs of my body and mind, unless it’s the weekends, and persistence focusing on “what’s next” or trying to work in advance to be able to reclaim time or be less taxed tomorrow.

  3. Resentment I have towards the job because of these (missing out on life, and constant flow of work / pile up of tasks). It frustrates me significantly and actually makes me angry that it eats up so much of my actual time, and also mental capacity; more so for me than others because my mind won’t stop hyper focusing on it (time down drain, work to be done, constant need to perform).

How do I fix my mind to not see things this way / care less and be less pessimistic in my outlook? The position pays too well to quit, and I’m very capable at it. If I can learn to compartmentalize, care less, disconnect properly, and not be frustrated, then it will work. Days that I have confidence & energy to feel excited about things shifts my perspective, but usually by the end of the day I’m drained enough that I must rest for 2 hours, and thus time with others, time to eat, and time to go get in movement is bypassed.

Any tips to stop this cycle and care less?

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