My boss is one of these bosses that acts all like hes your mate and there are no rules, everythings chill etc unless you break one of the unwritten rules in his head.
For 3 years him and his crony manager have gaslit me for years, my self esteem hit rock bottom and I was convinced I was useless and as a consequence I went through a period of making 'mistakes'
I began to suspect I was being manipulated, so made sure I double checked all my work because i felt i was being blamed for stuff i hadn't done wrong.
The next week i went to get some paperwork for my manager, it wasnt there, I informed him of this, he went to check came back with it and said I need to get nee glasses.
I called him out, told him I know it was there and if you say somethings there when I've seen it's not this affects my ability to trust what I see with my own eyes. He immediately admitted it was in the wrong place and he was 'joking'.
A week later I was blamed for getting a job wrong by his son but because I checked the weight of the job I knew it was right so I told him.
Now a few weeks ago the boss said from now on we can leave ten minutes early but then he started having digs overtime we did it so people stopped
Yesterday he said what you standing there for get going at 16 15.
Today I went to get ready at 16 15, when he saw me he said, what's this, going at 16 15 etc, he was visibly angry
I told him he said yesterday I could go at that time so I either can I or I cant, he told me to be careful and I said why I've done nothing wrong.
He asked me for a word upstairs, his first action was to puff up his chest and say 'nobody talks to me like that', I had to refrain from laughing, I responded by telling him that I was just reminding him of the fact that he allowed me to go at the same time yesterday as hes complaining about today.
After more gaslighting and failed attempts to deflect my mind away from the situation to muddle up my head he claimed he was joking and accused me of responding aggressively to his 'joke' , I said I was only putting across my point and that I dont think he was joking, he then said 'are you calling me a liar, I then said, 'i dont think you were joking, i can tell you i agree with you but it doesnt change the fact that i dont think you was joking.
The only reason he was upset was because someone got ready before him and that threatens his god complex
He angrily said fair enough and left.
I've already secured another job and I'll be receiving an extra 3 pound per hour.
I've notice that since I've started calling bullies out o feel whole, I like myself and I'm proud of my ability to do things, I can feel agency surging through my veins.
I've made a vow that I would rather be homeless than allow these parasites to destroy my self esteem and integrity.
Thanks for reading