need objective advice about what would be best for our family. Was told to post here by another sub.
Hi all.
Really need objective, sensible advice.
For context I'm a SAHM married to an engineer.
My husband really wants my input but I am hesitant because I really don't know.
I'll try to keep this short.
My husband has been at his current job for 3 years. He's not unhappy there, but isn't in love with it. He's on some important projects, and works ALOT of overtime. We live a comfortable but by no means lavish lifestyle. My days are long, sometimes stressful but not that bad, I feel like a great mum most days and am surviving despite his long hours.
He recently was successful for a new position in another company, which likely has better opportunities for advancement etc. It is a raise but not a huge one, and all overtime must be pre approved.
When he put his notice in at work his boss IMMEDIATELY came back to him with a SUBSTANTIAL counter offer for him to stay. Not life changing, but certainly quality of life changing. We'd have more money to spend, and could continue to save.
He's utterly torn on what to do and wants my input.
I'm of two minds about it.
I want him to have career advancement etc etc, but in the short term I'm thinking of the money, especially as we have kids to think about.
But also less overtime at the new place would take alot of the pressure off me, because he would be home to help more.
And most importantly I want him to be happy.
He's worried also about the unknowns of the new place, the devil you know, and all that.
A few things I would like to add that I didn't add in the original post are:
A) He overall does like his current job, he gets on really well with his bosses and colleagues and the benefits are slightly better and they are somewhat more flexible with WFH and working hours.
B) He likes his overtime because he wants to buy a second house.
C) He's really torn between “take the risk” and “the devil you know”
Please help!!!