I was laid off a couple months ago. I want to find another job solely because I have to work in order to send my child to college and afford our mortgage. I have zero professional ambition because I think my line of work is generally bullshit (advertising.) I have creative hobbies in my free time that I love but I do not think there's enough chance of making money from them to do them full time. I'm a writer/comedian but everyone I know who follows this line of work basically has no money and still has to have a full time job on the side so I'm not going there.
In this current job search I'm basically looking for a job that doesn't require travel and is WFH (this is the #1 priority, before even pay, because I have a very bad anxiety disorder and don't want to leave my toddler at home without me, also I fundamentally believe conferences and work travel should be illegal lmao), pays as much as my most recent job (this isn't hard to find), and doesn't require me to work long hours or weekends. That's literally it. I could be working at Shit Eaters Incorporated but as long as those parameters were in place I'd be happy.
Of course, every time I ask for career advice I get the same nonsense: you should go back to school! Oh, you could work in product but that's really competitive, you really need to HUSTLE. Oh, you'll never find something that lets you work from home and not travel, why not ENJOY TRAVELING FOR WORK AWAY FROM YOUR CHILD? (Literally fuck you) and there's always this assumption that I want to work, or that this is my life's purpose or whatever.
I am doing this to provide for my family and that's it. I have completely given up on any ambition to be a “career woman” or a “girlboss” or whatever stupid thing I thought I was at 22. Honestly, if my husband was okay with it I'd be more than happy to be a stay at home mom but he doesn't make enough for me to do that and for us to continue our current lifestyle, plus he has a very dominant personality and I'm afraid if I wasn't an equal financial contributor he would completely run the show, which even he's admitted is true.
Like, I just want career advice that acknowledges work is stupid and that the goal is to work as little as possible and hang with my family as much as I can. I'm so tired of people telling me “Oh, that'll be hard because XXXX so you really need to start from the bottom and HUSTLE” I would literally rather sell nudes for a living (and that's no comment on sex workers by the way, their work is probably a lot more important than mine if we're being honest.)
Yes, I'm lazy. Meet me where I am. I will not hustle. I literally just want to have a million babies and stay at home but I unfortunately live in 2022.