I sometimes think I am losing my mind! I started at this new job about 6 months ago and initially all was well but things slowly started to devolve. I report to a married male manager who I suspect had taken a more than platonic liking to me. However I just kept things cool and remained professional. I feel like me not responding to him has caused him to treat me worse than the other people I work with. ( I am the only female btw).
I always have strict boundaries and never mix business and pleasure. On my first few weeks there I went into my office and discreetly put his business card where only I could see with his cell and I did not think anything of it. A few weeks later, I noticed random shit in my office is always being moved around. Like yesterday I had my notebook open and someone went and took 4-5 pens and placed them all in a single line on my notebook. Not too long ago I came in to chocolate on my desk.
Then, I put in a vac. request and he approved it. Fast forward a few days later and its my day off. He is texting me saying how he is worried about me and was concerned I might be at a meeting or something since I was not in the office. (Mind you he approved and it was already 3 hours into the day). I also do not have a business phone, so it was odd that he was text my personal number when we have never communicated that way nor have I given him my number other than when I completed my job app.
Now everything has turned into him just treating me differently. Other people can call out of work and he gives them all the leeway in the world, but gives me a hard time. He also is super possesive of me. There is one guy in the office who is nice and we regularly talk and each time he sees us converse he gets sighs and walks off.
Why do managers do this and do my assumptions sound off? I am to the point where I don't know which way is up or down and feel like I am losing it.