I just started a new job. It's donkey balls right now. Like flaming red flags everywhere, but I need to work. I posted about the beginning of the job here.
I had a call with my team today after all this and asked what the expectations are, because if I'm supposed to be available by phone and email at 9:00 pm, this job ain't it for me. One of the team members said that most of the company works 10-hour days “just because they want to”. What the fuck? This is a consulting firm, not law or medicine or anything urgent AT. ALL.
I said that 50 hours wasn't going to work for me if that was the expectation. And being available after hours in the absence of the occasional overtime need was also not acceptable. I'm 47 years old and I've dealt with this shit my entire working life. I have boundaries, and I have to honor them. My mental health is at a barely functioning level as it is. I've left two different jobs to get intensive outpatient treatment.
This grind shit is not fucking it, and I'm OVER IT.
EDIT: I forgot to mention that they send me a chat message after they email me to tell me they emailed me. Calm the fuck down!