It has become harder and harder to take off more than a day here or there, and when I do, it is mostly for appointments or because I’ve been sick (which I rarely get sick). Even when I’m off I get the occasional message to do something.
Noah is very nice boss who has helped me a lot. Once in a while noah seems to really not think my personal life is important. Noah does let me have sort of a flexible schedule. I can come in a few minutes late so I drop off kid at school. That’s cool. On very heavy snow days, Noah lets me work from home. As long as it is not more than a couple days.
Last year I had a mental health crisis. I was really struggling and asked for time off. Noah connected me with someone and I was out on medication. The medication made things soooo bad. Made it like 100 times worse. Once I got off it it things got better. I already had time off scheduled later that year. When I gave Noah heads up because Noah always forgets when I’m planning to be off. Noah asked me how many days I had been off already. In 10 years noah hasn’t really done that. Noah did ask because during my mental health crisis, there were a few times I had to leave work.
During that time, noah wanted me to dogsit, even though I told noah I was mentally overwhelmed. I did it anyway. Noah also wanted to talk about defining time off. I told noah at least 30 vacation per year. I have to do all the work piles up anyway when I get back, I also get no other benefits whatsoever than my time off. I also often get contacted on the occasion I’m off.
A while back, I was schedule to take time off, it didn’t happen because changes to Noah’s schedule meant I had to change my schedule. I am also schedule to take off later this year. Keep in mind that I have not taken any actual vacation all year.
Now on the present, my kid is have a serious surgery. Noah said I could work from home some. But Noah is also assuming I’ll only be out for one week it appears. I had thought about taking my work laptop with me while at the hospital. JUST in the event my mind even goes there. But I didn’t tell Noah that. However, Norah ended up asking me to take my laptop with me to the week I’ll be at the hospital!!! And me like an idiot people pleaser said yes.
I will not do it, I won’t take the laptop. So now I want to send Noah and email with details of what my schedule will be like. I had already planned to be off next month. But I figured I’d combined the earlier year vacation I had planned that I ended up not taking, with the one I have planned next month and pile them together so I can be there for my kid. Then the 3rd and 4th week split my time between office and work from home. And after that I think my kid should be in a much better spot. My kid has the other parent available as well.
Does that seem unreasonable? I’m truly only taking my 2 weeks of vacation together and then working either from home or office. But I have no one to take over while I’m gone so either way I will still have to catch up with everything. Thoughts? I know if it wasn’t my situation, I wouldn’t think is unreasonable. But the guilt is there and I hate it!! I’m afraid Noah is going to have a problem with the time off timeline I’m going to give in the paragraph above.
Noah has done a lot for me and I will always be thankful and appreciative, but I need to appreciate my family too! Specially in such delicate situation. It is my kid’s health!