Really need to rant
I (25f) work in an office setting with two other men, one is 26, and the other happens to be his father and I’m not sure of his age but he’s old enough to have a 26 year old son (mid to late 40s).
When I first started working here, the first thing I noticed was the absolutely filthy shared bathroom in the office. It became apparent after a few days that no one had the intent to clean it and I honestly don’t know when it was last cleaned (if it ever was). I took it upon myself to clean it because I really could not bring myself to use that toilet in the state it was in. I had told the dad of the office that I wanted to clean the bathroom and he said something like “oh yeah you’re gonna have to look after me and the boy, we’re dirty”. This really infuriated me because they are aware that they’re filthy and they don’t care and don’t have a problem with me cleaning up after them.
Recently the dad has started to randomly tell me about things that I find unprofessional and uncomfortable (telling me about his sons love life and how him and his wife get into physical altercations) and he says these things in a joking manner but I don’t find them funny.
This last thing just happened today and it really infuriated me. Dad of the office told me he wasn’t going to be in the office much anymore and that I need to “look after” his son and clean up after him, make sure he’s not being lazy, and just keep an eye on him. This infuriates me because I know he would not be saying this to me if I wasn’t a woman. Why am I expected to “look after” a grown man. Are you guys not embarrassed that you can’t take care of yourselves? It’s disgusting and idc if it’s a joke, it’s still very sexist and infuriating.