you aren’t sticking it to the patriarchy when you don’t tip your waiter/waitress, you just aren’t paying that person.
yes i agree that servers should be paid a living wage but they aren’t. right now the system is set up so that servers get their income from tips, YOU pay the server for their service to you. tipping sucks but it’s part of the dinning experience, if you’re going out to eat it’s your responsibility to make sure you also have enough to tip.
it sucks having to tip but it’s literally not any different than paying for your food on a bill. you pay for every part of the dining experience, tipping is part of that. if you want to end tipping write a letter to congress or something, just flat out not tipping your server is just hurting a fellow poor worker.
(the anger is good, just channel it not at the servers and at the ppl in charge)