My boss has always been a bit inappropriate and unprofessional. I used to think it was fun, that he was relaxed. Although it made me a bit uncomfortable, I dealt with it because the pay was good.
He has been practically insufferable lately; always mad, demanding contradicting things, and overloading me with tasks that are physically impossible to complete all in one day.
Today, however, was my last straw. Today is “National Boss’s Day”. I ordered him a mug and had the whole office sign a card. I didn’t mention that I remembered it was boss’s day as I wanted it to be a surprise.
During the day, he is slamming doors, crumpling papers, storming in and out of the office. Basically acting like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum. I was discreetly passing the card around so it could get signed.
I get it signed, and I check on the mug delivery. It unfortunately was postponed until the day after, so I decided to give him the card today and let him know his gift would be here tomorrow.
I give him the card, and explain. He looks at me as if I just threw dirt in his coffee. He was incredibly ungrateful and I ended up walking out frustrated with his actions.
After work, I received this set of messages.
B=Boss M=Me
B: Did you not say anything to the team about boss appreciation day? Or had you told everyone? I am sorry I am just wondering why no one said anything about it to me all day
M: I am unsure. Maybe they all thought because they gave you a card that that was their way of telling you happy boss day
B: It is weird to me that no one said anything…. I feel like I am a good and fair boss and I dote out appreciation like crazy… I show value and respect to my team. So I am trying to figure out what I am doing wrong to not be worthy of their appreciation. I mean they only filled out the card because you made them. Sorry to put this on you, I am just being a big baby and my feeling are hurt that no one showed any appreciation, except for you and I feel like I had to remind you even that it was today. Don’t say anything to anyone I am telling you this in confidence
M: I won’t say anything to anyone. I do believe everyone appreciates you
B: It’s not about presents or cards or money, but words… no one said shit! I would have been happy and probably even paid if someone said let’s do lunch. Anyway now i am just ranting.
I have been considering quitting for a while but today I hit my breaking point. I went out of my way to get him a gift and he treats me and the office like this. What should I do?
EDIT: My fiancée also works here and I know he’ll take it out on her if I quit. Definitely a pickle.