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Am I crazy? Or is this gaslighting

I’m a writer at a major financial firm. My boss has requested to read my emails before we send them to internal members of the team in order to maintain and nourish good relationships. There are no past examples I can recall of us botching internal communications. I asked if I could provide feedback during a team meeting with the other writer being affected by this change. He said yes but only next week in our 1 on 1 meeting. After that, he mentioned in the team meeting that reviewing emails before sending them was a non-negotiable. We had a conversation about this incident in our 1 on 1 meeting the week after, and it was explained to me that I should be more mindful about the business case of having my emails screened. He said that he doesn’t want to read my emails either and that I needed to…


I’m a writer at a major financial firm. My boss has requested to read my emails before we send them to internal members of the team in order to maintain and nourish good relationships. There are no past examples I can recall of us botching internal communications.

I asked if I could provide feedback during a team meeting with the other writer being affected by this change. He said yes but only next week in our 1 on 1 meeting. After that, he mentioned in the team meeting that reviewing emails before sending them was a non-negotiable.

We had a conversation about this incident in our 1 on 1 meeting the week after, and it was explained to me that I should be more mindful about the business case of having my emails screened. He said that he doesn’t want to read my emails either and that I needed to think less about myself and more about the business case. Then he told me I’ve shown a pattern of irregular behavior and that sometimes I can be emotional at work. This is never feedback I’ve received from management. On each quarterly review to date there’s a section on my positive and go-getter mentality.

I understand there’s already an inherent bias posting on r/antiwork but I’m truly open to honest feedback.

Am I being too sensitive about this issue? What next steps would you take in my position?

Thank you for listening.

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