Had this quarterly feedback thing with my boss. So it was going well got some compliments…but then a concern she had for me was: “she doesn’t like my emails/tone” “it comes off as I’m trying to tell her what to do “
She was referring to 2 that I sent about coworkers not showing up or showing up extremely late and not giving notice. I’m the first opener I feel like if they’re supposed to be my helper/backup person they should be reliable
And I’m confused sure I was upset but I don’t think I phrased them aggressively or told her what to do. I don’t kiss ass but I also don’t think I’m in charge or anything
This first email was about a guy who was constantly calling off or going home almost immediately after he got here; it was effecting my workload so I emailed her: “Hello, this is the _th time in a row (name has not been here). I can’t count on him can you please not put him on Monday mornings with me?” -funny thing is she did take him off Monday mornings and write him up
The 2nd was after we had this bad snowstorm. I understand not everyone lives in the same area and some couldn’t get in. I was just asking: “Hi, is so and so coming today” she said she didn’t know and then I am guilty of airing a grievance in the heat of the moment cause I was upset I was left with all this work on my own but I didn’t demand anything “Can we work on the communication around here? I would’ve appreciated if he had called or texted someone to let us know he wouldn’t be here so I can adjust my workload, it’s not just the snow they never tell me anything when the weather is nice”
Funny thing is those happened weeks ago she waited till now to bring it up so I was taken aback
Couldn’t help it sometimes I get so angry that I start tearing up (people think I’m sad but I’m actually frustrated) and did so in front of her.
She was like “don’t cry, as you grow into your role you’ll learn”
But I’m still angry about what happened. Learn what? I don’t feel I did anything wrong-I feel like she let’s people take advantage of the fact I show up everyday on time and makes excuses for them.
You think I came off as disrespectful in my emails? I’m also embarrassed about crying at work so I just act like it didn’t happen?