I’m actually the second of three of his team members he’s targeted. We’ve reported him to our boss and her boss at least a dozen times for abusive outburst, yelling and swearing at us when we’re alone with him, throwing things, posturing, just so much aggressive and passive aggressive behavior it’s crazy. Our managers never kept a paper trial and asked US what we wanted them to do about it.
With the newest coworker he exploded at they said it was “the most afraid they’ve ever been.” I told them this has been going on for over a year and our boss and her boss keep telling me this is normal and ignoring it. I was told “this isn’t couples therapy” while the male coworker he targeted before me wasn’t told that. My newer coworker went way up to the top of HR and we all went through a retraumatizing HR investigation. The abusive coworker had a month long paid vacation during this.
They still let him come back saying we “didn’t have any evidence”. At that point I was such a wreck I took a medical leave for a partial program where every clinician and nurse and other member were floored that this was allowed to happen. The guy was talking about guns at work too and we told HR that.
The HR gaslighting was so traumatic. And yes I’m applying to new jobs all over and have been but I can’t find anything. I have no financial support aside from myself and my masshealth ends when the covid protections end so I need this job for the insurance. I’m stuck. I did demand they take him off all of our shared shifts, which they did, but all of us on the team are terrified of him. One is quitting soon and my boss begged them to stay longer so they could hire another person. It’s insane. This is at a very virtue-signaling private college.
So yeah….. let’s review my performance while being abused and traumatized for the last year. How did the team function? What could change for the better? How candid did we handle conflict? What superpowers or keyptonites did I discover in myself? What goals did I achieve and how? What can your supervisor do to support you?
These are some questions from my self assessment. All I can think about is railing them for letting us be abused and still not firing the abuser. But I need this job. Just feeling really really really angry and I need one of the 20 jobs I’ve applied to to hire me or at least give me an interview.