It’s my second week hostessing at an upscale restaurant in my city and I was brought to tears a couple hours into my shift.
There was a manager who had to host and he was upset about it and talked down to me and ignored me the whole time. He has a girlfriend, I don’t know if that was why he was ignoring me but I wasn’t hitting on him or anything.
My day started out ok but as more and more people showed up, the more angry people got at me. I have no control over the amount of people that show up but people got upset at me over that. I wasn’t the seating coordinator, but I sat people down and if they didn’t like their seats they would argue with me. A drunk woman was arguing with me and calling me “hunny” and I was feeling overwhelmed.
Early, a grown man GRABBED my arm because his wife wanted a different table. Like don’t f***ing touch me??? but I have to act nice and polite all the time no matter how shitty people are. People treat you like you’re low life trash when you work in the restaurant industry and my self esteem was in the gutter.
There was a somewhat good moment that happened to me that turned shitty. A lady tipped 12 dollars on a takeout order and specifically said she wanted the money to go to me. The manager and the other coworker grabbed the tip from me and told me it was going into tip share, even though I was the only one taking care of her.
I can’t handle this much disrespect, my self esteem was good before I started this job but i’m starting to think i must be ugly or something if people are this awful. I want to quit but I need the money and don’t have a choice. Sorry I needed to vent.