For some reason My therapist just cannot understand why my self esteem is so tied to my employment. How do i explain to her that, yes, surprisingly if i cant afford food or a house or car maintenance or literally just a treat to myself it negatively affects my perception of my abilities?

How can you be happy with yourself when the entire economy is telling you in literal black and white terms that you do not deserve to feed or shelter yourself? Where is this massive underground pool of value that everyone is walking around with where you dont need food or any sort of fulfillment or interest to just be happy with who you are? HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE