I'm in my late 20s and during a typical week I probably work ~60 hours in my corporate job – it's a high-pressure environment but I enjoy what I do and take pride in various promotions and work achievements that I have been able to accomplish over time. My boyfriend is in his early 30s and has a JD. He was initially working as a lawyer before moving to a part-time schedule due to a serious surgery which required several months of recovery. Due to his pride, he never went on disability and supported himself mainly through income from sports betting (I know, that's a whole separate discussion…) and from his parents. It's been now a little over the year since the surgery and he refuses to return to full-time employment. I expressed to him (multiple times) that I want to start a family soon, that I want to become a mother in the next 2-3 years (at most!), and that I don't think we will be able to afford these unless he gets a job. He keeps assuring me that he is serious about me, that wants to have a family with me one day and that he just needs a little more time before he can start looking for a job as he's still recovering from the surgery. I'm at a point where I am really exhausted of waiting and waiting, and am starting to lose faith in whether I can believe what he tells me. I have recently noticed on his laptop that he is following the r/antiwork community, which makes me think that maybe he never wants to go back to working full-time? To make things more difficult, our families are not really getting along lately, largely due to my parents being concerned about whether he will be able to provide for the family (especially once we have kids) and his parents supporting his decision to remain unemployed.
I have came across a lot of good advice on this forum and I'm hoping that the community will come through once again to help me get some clarity on how I can make headways in this situation.