What is the best way to deal with a manager that deadnames staff and uses language like “ret**d” to refer to staff?
My manager is young (25) and has warned staff that he struggles with patience.
So when things are not done in a timely manner he will call certain staff memebers “dumb f****** ret**ds” during moments of stress.
There is also an ongoing issue with deadnaming a staff member who has repeatedly asked to be called a different name. This was addressed on their very first day and staff has respected that request with no issues at all.
The manager has continued to use their deadname in emails and documents at work. He even calls them by their deadname to their face and then calls it a “mistake” when called out by that employee. He also refuses to use their pronouns (they/them in the workplace). Another mistake that he refuses to address and change.
The district manager was informed about the slurs used against staff and the deadnaming of staff. She encouraged staff to work as a team and to be the bigger person. He does great numbers in terms of sales so she doesn't want to rock the boat.
I pulled him aside in March and asked him to stop using derogatory language when speaking about me and other staff members. He said that he was under a lot of stress and would be mindful of the language he was using around staff.
But it has only gotten worse. Every day staff is pulling me aside to tell me what was said about other staff members and how uncomfortable they feel working with him.
They have decided to start looking for other employment because they are afraid of retaliation if they speak up (termination). The employee that is being deadnamed is also planning on ending their employment.
He has been bullying me for months (mainly gossip and name calling) but I was told to ride it out. But I don't want the staff to have to “ride if out” too.
I was told that “ret**d” was not an offensive term and that staff who swear or use foul language to refer to staff members should be corrected in the moment.
Right now staff is under a ton of stress and experience severe anxiety having to work with him. We're literally walking on eggshells because we don't want to make him angry. It's exhausting.