My year end review is coming up and typically there’s always a question from my boss on feedback I usually keep it general to avoid any issues. However one thing she does is talk bad about other people in the office. comments I’ve heard. – “i miss x he was sooo much better”, “she’s not great at strategy”, “He always says yes but never does anything”, “I like him but he’s such a mess and doesn’t have his shit together”. Being the one hearing these things on the other end makes me believe she has said terrible things about me … no way to know for sure but anyways I wanted to relay feedback say something like – one thing I’ve noticed every now and then is that you openly will make a negative comment about someone at work which leads me to think you may be doing this with me whether or not that’s true I don’t know but what’s important is That I believe when you’re in a leadership position those comments should be kept to yourself otherwise it comes across as unprofessional and doesn’t build trust between us.
Im curious to know if people think I should just not mention it and move on or provide the feedback and if so how you’d reco positioning it?