Hi all, first post here.
Tldr: how do you shut down patronising people at your work without being in the wrong for seeming aggressive?
I'm dealing with patronising staff at work, they are knowingly doing this as well and I'm tired of complaining to higher ups and it going nowhere.
I know I won't face disciplinary measures if I do it once, but I'd really like to shut it down next time and make it clear I won't accept that behaviour and that I'll call them out for each time it happens in future. Not looking to be confrontational really although I won't feel bad if they perceive it as so since my argument will be that it's a cowards way to annoy someone since they can hide behind gaslighting me as taking it the wrong way and they know they won't face any punishment for it. But I'd regard myself as somewhat intelligent and know in this case that it's not me misreading things.
It's perhaps the only way someone can wind me up and far too many people do it when if they looked at themselves they'd realise they have no place to do this.
So if you'd had enough of this kind of thing what would you say? I'm trying to think of how I can make “no matter who you are, I don't accept being patronised it and we will seriously fall out and hate working here if you continue” not appwar aggressive but at the same time get the se point across as I give up complaining.