Okay so i am transgender and my legal name is different from my preferred name. My old name gives me a lot of discomfort, both for gender reasons and the traumatic things I went through while going by my birth name. i cant legally get my name changed yet because in my state the court fees alone are 400+ bucks. But i have been open about my preferred name since the beginning of my employment, and I’ve been working here for around 9 months.
They have my real, updated name in the POS system so when the receipt prints out it says “Cashier: current name” instead of my deadname, which is cool. But in order to get my meal, I am still in the system as my legal name, which causes me a great deal of discomfort, as every cashier who checks me out for my meal knows my deadname now. It wouldn’t even be a big deal if the person checking me out didn’t say my deadname aloud- but they always do, even when i ask them not to say it aloud.
Like every time I have to get my meal every. Single. Time. It doesn't matter who checks me out every fucking time I'm like “my legal name is the one in the system, it's not my preferred name so please don't say it aloud.” And every fucking time they say aloud so everyone can hear “(dead name)? That's u right?” And I'm like I am going to eat a whole pallet of sanitizing wipes and I'm going to make you watch. I know it’s a little thing and i shouldn’t let it upset me but it does, especially when I ask them not to say it and they still do.
Also, a couple of my coworkers have taken to occasionally calling me my deadname “as a joke” and I tell them not to. I’m not gonna complain about it to management or anything cause I only have two weeks left here anyway. I just wanted to vent. Thanks for reading.