Yeah, what the title says. Both of my managers have said that. (Old manager got promoted, but he still likes to come by.)
The reasons why are the following:
– I hate talking about my personal life. I don't think my relationship status ties in with my ability to make lattes. Why do you as my manager need to know that?
– I don't come in on my days off. The group chat is muted on my day off too. I don't answer most calls or messages once I clock out.
– I hate being called nicknames. My new manager, whose my age, likes to call me “girl”. She uses it as “hey girl” in texts/calls. I dislike it. You are my manager and I am your employee. That is an unbalanced dynamic. We are not friends.
– I only text the group chat about work. That is the reason why it was created.
I'm confident that me having these boundaries is good for me. I may not be a part of the family, but I'm good at my job. And I think that is all that matters. I have a name. It's butchered all the time, but my name is not “girl.”