(i’m on mobile, apologies for any grammatical errors)
so a little backstory, i (28f) am a trained culinary professional with degrees in culinary and pastry arts as well as almost 8 years industry experience under my belt (i know that’s not a lot but it’s also not nothing) i started at a new job back in november 2021. i had left a good paying job that i loved and was passionate about but was an hour away from my home to be closer to my family and have a better work/life balance.
since starting at this new place, i’ve had a few experiences that have left a bad taste in my mouth, if you will. these include but are not limited to, my Chef having zero knowledge of my educational or professional background and being condescending/talking down to me, the people i work with having no respect for the fact that i was given the authority to give them direction, i’ve heard through the grapevine that my chef has referred to me as “just a girl” (meaning im less-than because i am a woman), the owner hearing or seeing something happen with regards to me and my coworkers but had absolutely zero context of what actually happened and proceeds to tell my chef to talk to me about whatever it was, but when Chef talks to me he doesn’t even know what the hell he’s referring to ! so im left confused and offended that the owner (whom i’ve known professionally for years now) doesn’t even have the guts to talk to me right then and there instead of doing what i call the “telephone game”.
so a “telephone game” incident happened today. the coworker that has been giving me a hard time every time i work with him, had more of a negative attitude today than he normally does. he would refuse to help the other girl on the line to get ahead (it’s not like she wasn’t doing her job or not doing her job well, we’re extremely short staffed and the poor woman only has two hands and two feet!), he was being extremely argumentative with me, and just being generally nasty and not only to me but everyone around. eventually i started to get frustrated with the lack of cooperation and was losing my patience. i guess the owner witnessed me being “agressive” which was then corrected to “flustered/stressed” (which people tend to think a lot when im not) when chef was speaking with me about it before i left tonight. chef said “well tomorrow is a new day maybe everyone was just getting grumpy with each other”. i proceeded to inform him that it wasn’t just today, every time this guy is working he always has an attitude about him. it’s not the first time i’ve noticed and it’s not the first time someone else working with him has mentioned his attitude to me.
i just feel like im being gaslit here and being expected to just accept being walked all over. i didn’t go to therapy for the past 14 years to not be self -aware and to be spineless. i want to go in tomorrow and give my immediate resignation but im scared that im just overreacting and being irrational?
help ? :/