It was my first review at this company and several people told me it would be just between me and the boss, and even HR sent out an email that our meeting would be a “one-on-one.” Imagine my surprise when I’m about to close the door and my boss says, “Oh, Jane’s coming in, too.” Like, what???
Jane has tried to shut off my access from our boss by having me go to her for everything. I told my boss early on that I had problems with the way Jane talks to me and she told me to talk to Jane first. When I did, that lady said I take what she says personally and that “it’s just business.” So I started documenting all of the times she’s been awful towards me or micromanaging me and planned to use it to explain my side of my annual review (which Jane filled out).
Instead, I got dogpiled on. “You had all this time to type this out but never went to [boss]?” “You left out xyz” “But you talk to Jane like xyz”
??? Jane told me to never challenge her bc she’s my supervisor, so I would just greyrock her. “Okay.” “Yes.” “That’s fine.” Instead, Jane views me as being flippant.
But Jane can get short with me and treat me like a child. She once told me to “Hurry up” in a strained, hushed tone over bringing her a table cloth. I was apparently walking too slowly for her.
Am I in the wrong here? Wasn’t this just supposed to be a one-on-one and not a two-on-one? We do have an HR, but is there anything I can do about this?