I'm (30F) a software dev, been here since January, and this job has been weird to say the least. It's a small company, about 15 people total, that preaches they're like family but the environment is the most toxic I've ever been in. To name a few things wrong with this job:
– you don't get a work computer, and have to use your personal computer / laptop
– my boss (the CEO) hired a friend from his gym as my new project manager. this friend was actually a personal trainer in that gym and it's his first office experience. me and my coworkers have to babysit him because he can't handle the pressure and barely understands the technology (it's been almost two months and he's nowhere near ready to be a project manager. the CEO insists we “have to take care of him”).
– we have no organization, no methods, no internal processes. Everything is done on the go, jumping from one thing to another.
– people scream at each other on a daily basis.
– I have to call angry clients from my personal phone (I resisted this one but it was futile).
– I have to handle a code that no one knows what's about, as it doesn't have any documentation, and it's very convoluted to say the least. it was created by a developer that left suddenly and just… disappeared (we think he blocked everyone).
– I receive tasks not related to me on a daily basis (administrative tasks). a coworker told me it's always been like that, and you have to learn to throw that task at someone else if you don't want to do it yourself.
The pressure has been pretty huge, and the stress is next level tbh. two months ago I started a masters degree in a field different but similar to mine, as I'm planning to leave IT. the stress of doing both at the same time is no joke, and I finally I decided to leave this job in a month to find an internship related to my masters program.
I knew I was valuable to this company, because as much as I hated it since the first week, I still took on many tasks and a code no one understood to try to make sense of it. I've got a good rhythm going on despite a couple hiccups, and I consider myself very efficient.
But damn, my boss reaction was a surprise when I told him I was quitting last Friday. I told him I wanted to tell him one month in advance so he had time to sort out my exit and find someone else.
He got RED in the face and told me that I couldn't do that to him, that he wasted his money on the headhunter that brought me in, that I was leaving him in a terrible position and that I'm leaving him “with his pants down”. That I was betraying him because I knew that he was only looking for people that wanted to stay there for years and years. he repeated “how could you do this to me” x5. He wasn't screaming at me, but he did raise his voice and berated me like I was a child.
He was so angry he stomped out of the office without saying goodbye to anyone.
Today, a coworker told me the CEO called him to deliver me the message that I have to “give it my all” this last month and to leave nothing pending. Which makes sense, but it did sound like they want me to do extra hours if I can.
The only good thing of this job is that I work hybrid, and only go to the office on Fridays. However I do work from my personal computer, and my boss' reaction was so bad that I fear going the next 4 Fridays, so I'm thinking of just not going.
I feel like right now I have two choices: I can be petty, finish some pending tasks without making any extra effort, and skip going on Fridays. Or I can try to leave on a good note as most of them probably hate me right now (I did a lot of tedious tasks other people avoided, and me leaving means they have to take on what I did) and I can try to turn that around so I can salvage some references. I also fear Fridays at the office as the CEO was usually very nice to me, but I feel like he will be extra cold and mean now (I'm still in shock tbh)
Any advice? thanks reddit.