TL;DR: boss made a comment to me which made me feel badly about myself and now I don't want to ask questions at work anymore.
i work as a server. This is my first serving job and I've been there for a little over a year. I like working there and I love my coworkers.
But I'm pretty unsure of myself. I have been there a year but I still ask a lot of basic questions. I only work two days a week as well and forget things a lot so I often second-guess myself and will ask for help or will ask to confirm what I'm thinking before I do something.
Today, we had a table of six come in while we were pretty busy. I was working out front so didn't know if we had a free table in the back so before I seated the table, I asked my boss where I should put them. He said, “wherever there's a table of six.” Well, duh. I grabbed them menus and went to seat them and then he told me a specific place to put them after telling me to put them wherever there was a free table big enough. that is why I asked in the first place.
A little later, he's traying up orders and wanted me to take my order to the table. It came with French toast, which my boss hadn't put on the tray. I said, “where's the French toast?” And he said, as he put the French toast on the tray, “sometime you have to start doing things for yourself.” Which I took offense to because I work my fucking ass off and I didn't understand where a comment like that was coming from.
It's really bothering me and i realized the comment must stem from me asking questions before I do something, so I don't make a mistake. So now I think I just won't ask and will guess when I'm not sure or just go ahead with something, even if I'm not sure I'm doing it right, just to avoid being put down like that.
Am I overthinking this? I thought perhaps he was joking, after I thought about it for a while, but after asking a couple coworkers, I don't think he was. Maybe I'm just being too sensitive?
Regardless, it made me feel really badly about myself and my work so even if he was joking, it was a nasty comment.
Edit: words