TLDR version: Borderline abusive supervisor approved my time off request but failed to plan accordingly and now “needs” me to be in that day “due to workflow.”
For the record: I said “no.”
But, I am someone that has anxiety – pretty acutely at times – and the stress of being in a state of conflict and uncertainty with my boss, even if I am advocating for myself, permeates into my personal time and takes up space in my brain and turns me into a nervous wreck in general.
I need the day off because beloved sister is in town for a brief and rare visit and I will not miss this opportunity to support her during a difficult time in her life. But my boss doesn’t know why I need the day off because it’s none of his fucking business.