Hello everyone, a little background. I work in a group home for people with autism. The people I support are great and over the last 2 years I’ve developed a deep and meaningful relationship with them. The people I support are absolutely not the problem or reason I’m leaving.
My coworkers are terrible, one is racist (openly shouted the N word with no repercussions) and constantly complains about trans and gay people without it effecting her life whatsoever. For example, she saw a trans person at a fast food restaurant and it was her go to bitch about for weeks. When I confronted her about her use of the N word she doubled down and continued to say it. She isn’t black, not even close.
Many of my other coworkers sit on their ass and ignore the individuals. One in particular is just terrible. I ended up reporting him for abuse where he put his hands on someone in an inappropriate way and yelled at them. He was off for a while being investigated and eventually came back.
Since he’s been back I’ve been endlessly harassed. He broke the law and told everyone I reported him. Him and about 5 other coworkers began ganging up on me and continually calling me a liar. They began confronting me at unexpected times saying I should be punished for a “false report” when that absolutely wasn’t the case. They seem to have the narrative that I reported him because I don’t like him. When I’m actuality he was inappropriate. All of these coworkers are very clicky and from the same country so regardless of him being in the wrong they still support him. Even after he put hands on a disabled person.
I’ve spoken to HR and my manager and the confrontations have been less. I guess they all got talked too. Regardless, they still give me dirty looks, I can hear them speaking about me, and whenever they leave the house for group outings they ignore me and the person I’m supporting and completely exclude us, which isn’t fair to the people I support. Going bowling? They’ll leave without me even noticing or offering for us to tag along.
With that being said, I just confirmed I’m switching to a new house in the company and I thought I’d be happy but I have this gut wrenching feeling. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve locked myself in the bathroom sobbing at work. I think I’m scared to start something new. I’m worried about leaving the people I support I will miss them so much. I’m also worried about the new house, what if it’s the same shit? I’m starting to doubt my choice to leave but that might just be my anxiety for something new.
This company seems to value quantity over quality. Keeping racist and abusive staff while letting the staff that actually cares about her job to be pushed out.
Any and all advice is appreciated. I’m having serious doubts and worried about the outcome. TYIA