Not sure if this is the right stuff to post… but if it is… all support is welcome.
I work with a project manager that is causing me so much anxiety and from how conversations have transpired it seems like they are spinning the narrative and playing the “i’m older so I’m more trustworthy” card. This person has double standards, i.e if I’m stressed and need an extension on a deadline (that’s not particularly detrimental) I’m labelled as difficult but when I ask the same they basically say they can maybe get it to me by xyz time or or tell me i need to give them room to make mistakes and grace. They also context switch, we will align on doing XYZ process or it seems we align, they won’t do it and then when I gently address it I’m treated like a nazi, as if I forced this upon them. Since the beginning this person wasn’t very friendly and definitely had a drive to push things to make them look good, I’ve also witnessed this person spin the narrative to suit their goals – I tried speaking up on these things including the toxic work culture but I feel am made to look like a crazy person / get gaslighted. Someone before me did the same and they got fired, but when I had the chance to work with them – it was the most normal experience / collaboration I had at this company!! Based on BIZARRE convos that happened today My gut is telling me this project manager has played a game of chess and I’m obviously losing because I wasn’t strategizing but just being genuine with my observations – AKA I think they may fire me after I deliver my next project. I’m an anxious mess and don’t have the option to just kick it not work as hard – as due to their fuck up they have spun an incredibly tight deadline on me (borderline unreasonable for the scope). I know I didn’t say much but I’m Emotionally spent and feel so anxious my stomach has been in knots since last Friday. Does anyone have any tips to cope with this shit / how to turn off after work?