I have been having problems at work, my immediate supervisor came at me with a highly confrontational demeanor over a disagreement in our workplace. I had a panic attack and took lunch to go collect myself.
When I returned I went to speak with the owner (the next line in the chain of command) and expressed that I was not comfortable with what happened, to include my coworker raising their voice and saying “Fuck you” to my face.
I reminded them that I have depression, anxiety, C-PTSD, and most recently been screened for and pursuing and Autism diagnosis and asked that if there are problems that they be addressed in a less confrontational and aggressive way.
My boss said and I quote.
“We will not treat you any differently than anyone else”
Which to me seems counter to the conversation seeing as I was approaching to remind them of my diagnoses and the accomodations I am asking for to reduce stress and conflict in the work place. Which is by definition being treated a little differently than everyone else.
“We didn't know any of this when we hired you”
I disclosed that I was in therapy at the time of my hire and my diagnoses have come since my time here. I have updated them regularly as I continue therapy.
I was told that the “fuck you” was a “slip of the tongue” and I should do better to understand the pressure that my supervisor is under.
I was told that I need to “learn how to let things go, if you don't you will take this with you wherever you go and never be successful”
When I mentioned my diagnoses with the depression, anxiety and C-PTSD I was greeted to the “I have depression” statement. They went even further to say that “[production members name] has a story that would make either mine or your look like a holiday”. This felt like an overshare of someone else's personal info and very invalidating in the comparative suffering, they do such-and-such why can't you mentality.
To make my point I eventually said “I don't feel safe when [supervisor] and I disagree over something due to the way they resolve conflict” and the owner scoffed at me and demanded to know “What is he gonna grab a bat and hit you over the head” which felt patronizing and dismissive.
Mostly venting to ease my nausea today because being at work puts me on edge these days.
This all feels rather discriminatory.