Antiwork

So I had this conversation with a coworker today. She was asking about how to take leave from work because she's burnt out. I had to take 2 separate leaves from work in Jan '21 and Mar 21', so I was happy to help talk her through how to navigate that. Talking to her kind of triggered me and took me back to that place I was a year ago, which was the absolute lowest point of my life. Combined with ongoing stress of dealing with the world lately, I was taking way more stress from work than I could handle. WFH pushed me over the edge, but I'd always had that problem before. Reflecting on it a year later makes me happy to see how changing my attitude about work has made me better at my job than ever. My attitude since coming back to work has been a…

I have the kind of job that sounds like a dream. It’s in a field I’m passionate about, mostly remote, and pays better than I ever thought I’d make. Two years later, I’m leaving. I’m burnt out. I don’t even really know what’s brought me to that point to be honest, but it’s visible to everyone that my attitude is suffering. A couple of weeks ago my boss basically told me it’s a common topic of conversation that everyone thinks I’m unpleasant and that it’s unacceptable that I don’t want to attend staff get togethers outside of working hours. Some of that I think is fair – I’m direct in how I talk to them, especially when I’m unhappy about something, and to be fair I’ve never totally understood how they decided what should be in a private vs. public slack channel or in a DM. Some of it I…

FL USA. We were all in the office and the topic of what we were being paid came up. I noticed everyone had either started lower than me or was currently paid less than me. I mentioned it and I guess someone told our boss and today i was sent home early “indefinitely” until they can figure out “things.” Also because i wasn't wearing Scrubs when the order they made for me for scrubs never came in. They want me to dress “professionally” to be a labor worker around dirt and ash. Everyone else wears jeans and a tshirt. Idk whats wrong with what i wear when its the same as everyone else. This scrubs thing is extremely new. My co worker only got hers yesterday.

Genuine advice needed. No flaming, no politics, no hating, no kicking a girl while she's down, please. I (34F) have various non-visible disabilities. I have a compromised immune system (which has caused me to catch covid 3 times despite being triple-vaxxed and very careful with masks and social distancing… my savings got consumed by the ICU), fibromyalgia, severe rare gastric problems that cause me to be chronically underweight no matter what treatment I do or what doctor I see (no kidding, the Discovery Health Channel scouted me for a “Mystery Diagnosis” episode years ago, as my case is so rare and I'm one of few survivors), as well as depression/anxiety as a result of various childhood and relationship abuses prior to meeting my wonderul husband (35M). Aside from actually neeting to USE my sick days unlike others in this workaholic country of the USA (using PTO seems to be deeply…

I worked at a tech company where they did not track or have accrual of vacation hours (for full-time, exempt employees). Commonly, people refer to this as “unlimited” vacation. It's even advertised this way in many job postings under company perks. One time, during a quarterly company town hall, someone asked the CEO (who's also the company founder) the question, “How much vacation can I REALLY take even though it's unlimited?” CEO says, “There's no unlimited vacation. You take what you need. That's our policy.” This led to a wonderful back-and-forth between the CEO and other people in the audience around some people taking a lot more vacation than others, some managers allowing more or fewer hours, some jobs are too busy to allow for much vacation, etc. The CEO showed expertise in dodging all the questions and never giving a straight answer other than, “You work it out with…