So here’s some of context surrounding my workplace and their culture.
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My boss has asked me to ride the back of my motorcycle multiple times and has bought me gifts more than once. As I’ve dealt with men in the past, it’s creepy and uncomfortable. He also likes to trap me in a conversation with him for hours in his office. He gives any excuse to linger around my cubicle, touch me, or talk to me.
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I told my HR manager, and the HR said she may need to talk to him, so I told her I was unsure about whether I want to talk about everything that was discussed, and so I’ll think about it and file a report on what I would want to bring up (Especially since there’s a power dynamic, he’s the ceo). She tells him anyways without my consent OR documentation of any kind. I go into his office discussing something else a little later, and then he asks me questions about going to HR and he confronts me and lets me know he’s apologetic. I was incredibly uncomfortable and I felt trapped, especially because there were very few people left in the office and I was alone with him. I had to say yeah yeah it’s okay, when it clearly wasn’t, but the HR put me in such an uncomfortable position that I had to.
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There’s no career development or career support here. I’ve taken initiative and even had a conversation with the management involved, but they haven’t put really put any effort into doing that for me; my manager basically said, i’d be supportive of you. you’ll get pushback on some things, even from me, but you should definitely go for it. I would love to, but because of the lack of structure, I feel super stressed and overwhelmed of trying to do this alone.
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A lot of management had push backed on my projects. one of my projects have lasted the whole 9 months to roll out, even though it was ready 7 months prior. i’ve put a lot of effort into this but it took 9 months for people to finally coordinate and do their part and rolling out. it even took me months to update QUICKBOOKS, the one software that barely changes year to year, for accounting. My manager and CEO sees the value of the work, but doesn’t step in and say “we’re doing this”. It puts me in an uncomfortable position where I have to bargain and fight to complete my projects.
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Admittedly,I have grown really comfortable with arguing with the CEO at this point, which is incredibly inappropriate of me; but he talks for literally hours, doesn’t make any clear points, always interrupts me and doesn’t let me speak, and I always feel like he’s subtly manipulating me / gaslighting me / minimizing me when he talks. I called him about career development, and his advise earlier yesterday. Somehow he leads the conversation to things I specifically had a problem with (convincing our CFO on quickbooks, him disliking the fact that I left a convo because it wasn’t necessary for my job role). He made it personal so I started laying down boundaries like “I thought we were talking about career development.” or “I don’t understand how this may relate to career development.” He responds with “I think you’re getting intense about the wrong things” as if he didn’t steer the conversation as an opportunity to complain about me, to me? He then ends the conversation by getting in the last word in, unnecessarily and for no reason.
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I asked to change management, but my new boss in the company makes it very clear that he does not want to manage my role or department. He also was promoted to and recently made a strict 4 days on-site role, and ignores the accommodations I have of my schedule for my disability. He’s also incredibly patronizing. I think he knows I’m trying to leave, and he keeps bringing up “I don’t have experience” and “my expectations are too high.” They want to treat me like shit but also still want to keep me.
What’s the point of working anymore. The CEO sexually harasses me, the HR manager is completely incompetent; arguably put me in harms way, and my new boss doesn’t even want to manage me. I hate my life.
At this point Im doing the least minimal effort at work just to get by and continue getting paid.