I 22f only worked at one other place. I left before the probation period was up because the boss and coworkers were basically bullying me and blaming me for things I didn’t do. I wasn’t trained properly, instead coworkers would make me do the things they didn’t want to do. When I asked them for feedback they would say I’m doing fine, and then after I left they would go to my boss and say that I’m doing terrible. My boss would call and text me off hours constantly, because she couldn’t be bothered to come into work most days, and would tear me apart. I had to leave class and even walk out of a thanksgiving celebration party with my family to take her calls. I wasn’t ever paid to take her calls.
She would say things like I was refusing to wipe residents (untrue), only looking busy when she’s there (untrue), charted too much, then said that it was suspicious that I did rounds around the building, said my coworkers didn’t want to work with me and complained about me, said I wasn’t meant for healthcare, etc. Then she tried to blame me for lying on an incidence report – when her favorite employee wouldn’t call an ambulance on a 98 year old resident who hit her head and fell on the floor. And that I screamed at the resident (yelled out in shock when she fell), and restrained her. I pushed her closer to the table so she could reach her food. When I would say I didn’t do those things she would gaslight me and say that I did, that my coworkers tried to correct me (never once did) and that I was a liar and an abuser.
She said that my coworkers could socialize during off time, and are allowed to forget their walkie talkies, but said that I can’t “because she doesn’t trust me”. I’d often talk to the kitchen staff for 20 minutes a night and lost my beeper once after dealing with a combative patient. My coworkers will hide in the medicine room for hours and have not used a walkie talkie in weeks. I was written up for loosing my beeper once, having a stained blanket in the hallway for less than a minute, and talking to the kitchen staff (the only people nice to me there).
They promised me a full training regiment and to have me get my CNA certifications. None of this was true. I came in off the street and had no idea what I was doing or what I should have been doing. I depended on my coworkers for all feedback and instruction, and asked each of them like 10 times for feedback, and they would intentionally withhold information from me. They had each-other on Snapchat and would relentlessly talk shit about me. These were 30+ year old women.
She threatened to give me a bad reference unless I “improved at everything – if I could do something better I should do It” and also make my coworkers stop talking bad behind my back. When I quit my boss wouldn’t stop texting me, and had a coworker call me and stalk my social media. I told her my issues with her managing style – and she told me that it’s my fault she has to act this way to me.
My ex boss has apparently been removed by state, and I had to block all ties to that place because of the harassment. I’m in therapy now, and now that I’m about to complete my CNA course I am being bombarded with job offers.
I’m scared to try again. Is every place like this?