Yeah. So the last 12 years (I am 32, so since 20 yrs old)…I have worked a very physically demanding job, as a “trashman.”
My father is the owner. For many many years, it supported our family.
Really…the job can be A LOT, and there really isn't any need for TWO MEN. Usually the guy drives the truck, and stops to grab each stop, and continues to the next.
But at 20 years old, I just needed some money coming in. Back then? MIN WAGE, under table
But I couldn't complain.
For him, now it's just driving. While I do the all the work.
Okay so It's 12 years later.
I am making $10/hr
Our agreement was min wage. Each year, it would be adjusted upwards.
Well the first few years went okay, then I heard a rumor he was gonna give the business to me after he retires.
So…I thought it was all sort of a test, that soon enough, I'd be making more than what I feel I deserve.
So for 6 years….I didn't bring up my pay. Bc OBV at first I'm a dollar under MIN. BUT fast ⏩ to NOW. AND that's like a third of my check!!!
And by this time, it's CLEAR, He wasnt going to leave the business to me. After doing so much damn work.
12 years. No sick days. No days off. I cannot call out (because it's a small business, We are the only employees…and my dad didn't know anybody who could take over for me.
After over a decade…there's just so much abuse he put me thru.
He felt like he was doing ME a favor.
WHILE HE HAS ALWAYS MADE much much more than me.
While he refuses to pay me MIN WAGE. Anyway, $10 an hour was MIN WHEN I decided it's no big deal, I'll just remind him after a few years, and he will pay me a lump sum of how much he owes me in retrospect.
I wanted to be noticed caring about the business..not complaining over money ….so a couple years ago,
it became clear that he was actually just ripping me off. The lump sum of 8k-10k which WOULD HAVE FINALLY ALLOWED ME TO PAY FOR A CAR.
10 years of shit pay. NOPE! There was no way he was handing me that money.
On top of rent to sit in my room at my parents house, no visitors, no friends. I can't go anywhere. I live in the country.
So, I gave my 20s to this job, and he never had any intention of having my back.
“If you don't like it, get another job.”. ********
…so for my 20s, all I've done is leave from my house with my dad, who is a dick. Come home. Alone. Wake up repeat.
I can't afford a car with what I'm being paid…so that makes a social life, meeting women, practical things, etc….impossible
The depression as a result has nearly done me in.
I want to die. Everyday. I am isolated and lonely…angry sometimes.
So, the first 5 years I put up with it.
The last 7…my pay lessened and lessened…and he always USED TO be honorable, good man. I was amazed he'd essentially STEAL all that money from me.
With the depression after years of no life outside of a job that should be getting me like 20/hr.
I haven't seen a lady my age smile or flirt with me I. 12 years.
About*** $1,200****….THATS IT. A DOWN PAYMENT ON A SHITBOX CAR. The least amount that will get me in a car the same day..
I am trapped in this…..abusive situation. I have NOBODY on my corner, nobody that can help me get away from this situation.
Once I have a cheap, used car….I can. Get another job. Then I'll be seeing alot more money.
Pay off car.
Maybe if I'm lucky, I'll meet a nice girl. It's been soo many years. A friend would be nice too.
I gave up hope. A long time ago.
I lost everything
And my dad just turned into someone who seemed to hate me.
…. ANYWAY.
Please. Help. I am soooo desperate. I fear I will just go ahead and…inflict a fatal affliction upon myself to die. I can't go on like this. No support system…that's okay. I'm dead on the inside by now.
For the LOVE OF GOD.
there has got to be someone out there who can help me!
I just ran a waste pickup operation with no help. It's a lot of work. And I did it without complaining at my 10$/hr…I am ALWAYS ON CALL, TOO. (WELL, he just yells up the stairs.)
I did it for 12 years. NO SICK DAYS…I didn't take a SINGLE PERSONAL DAY.
Without me, the daily route grinds to a hault, and each day that passes, the worst position you're in.
Truck breaks down, I do it by hand, x2 work.
Side jobs, “extra work.” Is me filling up a giant dump truck ALONE. And not seeing a DIME.
Tips meant for me were kept by him.
HE would FLIP out like all day once a week.
I AM DESPERATE…
A car, or wheels with a motor on it….
…is my only salvation. It opens the doors to every single thing that is missing from my life.
Getting a new job, OBV is priority #1
…but after THIS LONG of trying…no good news l, and no clear opportunity to advance myself into a position to HELP MYSELF:
I AM…I must try…something. somehow.
After he essentially has stolen thousands and the business from me…NOT TO MENTION: Watch his son turn into a SHELL of his formal self. I grew worse and worse.
…. Idk how he can refuse to give me a couple months pay in advance. He has a used car nobody uses, that's prob worth 2 or 3 grand.
..it SITS THERE. ….I TOLD HIM: NAME.YOUR PRICE. I CAN give you 2/3 of my check each week u til we are even. And to make up for the wait…I told him to decide how much more money in “interest” would offset whatever problem he has.
More excuses from him that aren't logically sound. I can't figure out why he won't help me. Why nobody will.
GREAT REDDIT Readers:
Tell me what to do! I can't figure a damn way out of this hole, not alone. Relatively such a small amount of cash 1,000k would save my life.
I am not AFRAID of HARD WORK.
I ran this company by myself.
I'll take any job, anything is better than this. Fly me out to wherever to do whatever. I'd love to make more than min wage for once. I AM WORTH more than bare minimum. Capable of more.
If someone sees this and hears the ring of truth in my words, and wants to SAVE my LIFE BY GIVING ME THE MONEY. ……That would get me a car, to a new job, to BEING ON CONTROL OF MY Life AGAIN.
(I would pay back in FULL with a SPECIAL bonus!
If someone has a place where someone like me can…heal….I am an empathetic, Intelligent, hard working, younger man. I AM IN an abusive situation.
No drugs, And I don't drink.
I HAVE often considered stealing back all the money he OWES ME. That I EARNED.
…But he's got no cash stash, and idk what to do with credit cards, checks, etc. …if there is a way of taking what is rightfully mine, I must be open to that. …
It pains me..but he has no right. It is justified.
And if I let this continue, I probably won't make winter.
GOD….omggggggg I seldom let myself dream of finding $700 in the street….would get me VERY close to a gas scooter.
Or A bicycle with those engines on itive been seeing lately…they are prob a few hundred bucks…faster than a 50cc moped… will save me….
I could literally take that to my NEW JOB until it's too cold, and by then I can buy a car
Save me…
AND I WONT EVER FORGET YOU. HE STOLE MY 20S FROM ME. HE STOLE MY LIFE. HIS HOLD ON ME, AND ABUSE HAS LIKELY BLOCKED PREVENTED ME FROM meeting my future wife. Which makes kids even less likely than finding HER. He has stolen so much.
Thnkyou,
Jon