I’ve been at my current job for a year while finishing up grad school.
I was given a write-up for poor communication. I was told that 3 of my coworkers reported me. I’m very close and on good terms with all of them, so I was really blindsided to hear that. Apparently, they told the manager that I complain and that I am unhappy.
The boss thinks I’m lying. She’ll ask me how I am & I’ll tell her I’m fine. Well, apparently, I’m not fine because I allegedly tell other people I feel unsupported and that I hate it here. All of this is untrue.
I told her accuracy & active listening are both important — when I say I’m fine, I’m fine. I don’t say things I don’t mean & I’m not hiding anything.
She also told me I’m being toxic to our new assistant manager. The girl started off nights, did my position, and got a managerial position soon after.
The new assistant manager used to be a friend, but I started setting boundaries with her because she trauma dumps & has discriminatory tendencies. She used to gossip about her previous coworkers who were all women of colour. Our night crew is predominantly African women. She is a white woman. According to her, her old coworkers were all lazy, slept on the job, incompetent, and just overall terrible ppl to be around with. I’m also a woman of colour, so I couldn’t help but to wonder if she felt the same about me. They couldn’t all be terrible individuals. I knew some of them & they were pretty decent.
How come she never had anything negative to say about our white coworkers? Why was it always night staff? It didn’t make sense.
All I ever did was confront her about this weird grudge she has with one of the girls she used to work nights with. I told her it was workplace discrimination to prohibit someone from working days because you didn’t like being around them. Ppl should be hired on merit and she was qualified.
She showed the texts to my boss and cried.
Just bc she doesn’t like someone doesn’t mean she should prevent them from seeking new job opportunities.
For the past few weeks, I’ve only been talking to her so that we can do our jobs effectively. But I don’t small talk or entertain her trauma-filled stories anymore.
I’m now in trouble. And I don’t trust ANY of my team members. I still don’t understand what exactly I did wrong.
I see her everyday & she acts like she didn’t try to ruin my reputation. What was the purpose? Like I don’t understand the thought process. You’re gonna report me, get all my team members to corroborate your story, and somehow this will lead to a healthy workplace environment and friendship?
I’m so angry.