Hi all, im on mobile so bear with me. I havent shared the full story and its too long to share now so ill try and be brief.
I work in the US, in a “progressive” state that allows for up to 3 months of baby bonding time for newborns, adoptions, etc. Im protected from being retaliated against for taking this time and had a meeting with HR, my manager and his manager to discuss the ways he has retaliated against me for taking leave time and how at this point I just want a transfer (denying a lot of time off and any additional leave requests, attenuating my career with the agency, gatekeeping information and connections, etc)
My bosses boss inadvertently pointed out how they denied my request to extend my leave time (apparently everyone gets a 1 time extension if requested, which I did request but was denied) in the meeting. Me and the head of HR perk right up and im like “oh yea, that too!” What dumbasses! Our “leaders” have no idea how to actually manage people.
Had they apologized, responded to my emails before I started escalating things, or just given me an extra week off this probably all could have been avoided. While I know I'm replaceable, as the program director this will be a loss for the program that they prob won't replace since the program is due to end soon and some other people may leave too.
After the meeting I sent a follow up email thanking everyone for the productive call and how I would like to add what we discussed to my written statement (all detailed out of course).
I stuck to my guns about wanting a transfer, specifically not to a certain area where they have a lot of openings because that would be a longer commute and additional retaliation.
TLDR-boss fucked around and is finding out that he illegally retaliated against me for taking FMLA/PLA time. His boss inadvertently points out additional retaliation in meeting with HR. We are all managers so im pretty sure HR will limit their exposure and grant my transfer request.