Hi! I have a stable job, and I started before the benefits packet was changed, so that the benefits that I am set to receive when I retire are no longer offered by the state. And they’re great. They are the definition of golden handcuffs. I am really reluctant to leave because I can’t take them with me.
I am good at my job. I am reliable and liked (I think) by those I work directly with. That said, my boss hates me. She only communicates with me when absolutely forced or when I have made a mistake. She’s an executive and I am not. I have been killing myself to make the unit work (I am salary), but have decided that I no longer wish to work 60+ hours a week because they refuse to hire me help.
There’s the context. The rub is that I can’t bring myself to not care. It’s like a reflex, I will work through lunch if needed. I will cover a task if no one else does. I get upset when she unfairly accuses me of mistakes that weren’t made.
I would like advice on how to not care. And please don’t tell me to go to therapy lol I do see a therapist but I’d like some outside perspective that isn’t “ have you thought about why you feel this way “ or “ take a vacation!”. Pls and thank you.