Cw: rape, suicidal ideation
I was raped two months ago, and since then my work performance hasn’t been quite as good. I’ve been hospitalized twice for suicidal ideation, and the day everyone was back at work after the second hospitalization my supervisor and ED had a “pre disciplinary” meeting with me. I’m missing deadlines, they don’t feel confident I can lead projects, my quality of work is lower. No specifics. They said that since I always over perform, I “can’t get away with” not doing as well. I checked all my work and my notes: I was late on ONE MINOR ASSIGNMENT and I led ONE MEETING with a little less than perfect confidence. They were especially upset that I wasn’t giving notice (???) before taking leave, and that I was behind in my projects from taking so much leave (7 days altogether over two months). I think they violated ADA here.
I previously had a lot of respect for both of them, but now I see their “informal” meeting as a way to pressure me into picking up everyone else’s slack like I normally do. They can’t make it formal because they have no grounds! I’m disgusted and disillusioned. Your work is not your life and your boss is not your friend. I can’t leave the job due to health insurance and its flexible, remote perks. But wow, what a disappointment. Talking with a lawyer friend now.