I’ve been at my role for almost 2 1/2 years. I work with kids K-5 and am burnt out, but also cannot stand my boss anymore. I am scared to quit with two weeks notice because of the manipulation and emotional abuse she will do. Our relationship has crossed too many boundaries that I feel stuck at this place.
I know doing this will burn the bridge to a reference, and to be honest I’ve been a stellar employee the past two 1/2 years, but I’m willing to give that up. Some examples of the unprofessionalism (I admit I shouldn’t have participated in some of these, but I was young and wanted the boss to “love” me. Bad idea.)
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Invited me over to her house (while I was working at another job) to drink with her and another coworker. I was underage.
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She took me out for a birthday dinner for my 21st and repeatedly handed me her drink to finish after I told her multiple times I didn’t want to drink more because I was driving home.
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She admitted to driving drunk and laughed about it.
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She tells me she gives me more responsibilities at work because I can “handle it” while everyone else puts in less effort and she doesn’t care.
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She tells me she doesn’t know what she’ll do without me because I’m her “person” (I’m 7 years younger than her and not her peer)
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I know I should have had a conversation about this with her, and I did, but I was shut down and I honestly am too intimidated to do anything about it.
I’m just stuck in a hard place. I have another job lined up already, but I need to just quit. I know leaving without two weeks notice is unprofessional, but I truly don’t think I can mentally handle the crying and guilt tripping I will receive from her if I put in my two weeks.