I posted this in the advice subreddit but I feel like I could get some good insight here. If this isn't allowed I'm sorry.
My (29F) job isn't great, it's a food service job. It's average as far as the work goes. Understaffed, the whole shabang. I left my old job for this one over a year ago (on good terms, but the job had a lot of issues with higher ups that came to a head recently. I definitely needed to get out when I did.) I was working both jobs at the time and my current boss offered me the wage I was basically making between the two if I just worked for him full time. Sick.
The job has a lot of practices that are shady, but I need that money right? The boss takes care of us a lot though. I have to overlook a lot because it would be hard to match this wage.
Sorry for the long context. Here comes my dilemma. Since before I moved full time to my current job, I've had Saturdays off. At first because I was over worked and it was the easiest to take off and now it's the only day I have with my fiance. I get it, especially in this industry we have to sacrifice a lot of personal time and time with loved ones. I guess that goes for any job. I'm currently working on getting my license so it's my fault that my options are limited (got a late start in life financially, I know it's silly I don't have it yet).
The other night my boss got massively drunk as he often does and while at first he started with he might have to take my Saturdays, it quickly turned aggressive with “It doesn't effect or matter to me what your boyfriend's schedule is, you'll have other days to insert innuendo that implies my day off is just for sex.” Of course I was pissed because he wouldn't tell me what he's thinking of making our new schedule and my free time is for my family, my fiance's family and anything else I have to get done outside of work. It's not changing my day off that bothers me. I lost all respect for him in that moment because he was hammered and that wasn't all he said. He was all nice after but I just kind of knew in that moment the rose colored glasses were off.
I just make a lot of money here and I got screwed with some unexpected large financial hits out of my control (such as taxes) so I feel like my hands are tied. Some advice to level my head and set some priorities in order would be helpful. Like how to approach asking about the new schedule without being pissed about how he talked to me the other night. Any words on the situation would be helpful honestly. I know that my stress with responsibilities outside of work are putting me on edge. Thank you for reading this word vomit I'm not great at organizing thoughts, ADHD and all that jazz.