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My supervisor wants me (47f) to put up with a creepy partner(60s m). How far should I go right now?

I've posted here before, and I had a good outcome with that situation. I did contact an employment lawyer and had a good experience with hr. The issues were resolved to my satisfaction and things were going great. I applied for a job in my target department and got it in June. I was so happy to move forward to place I wanted to be. I worked in this department from 2019-2021. I worked in a different department after 2021. So I'm back. I know a lot of people and I'm good with the supervisors in that area too. I have a skill so I can make more money which has been great. There's a ton of people on vacation right now so I'm training on a lot of new jobs. The one I've been doing for the last 2 weeks is becoming a problem. My partner is awful. He…


I've posted here before, and I had a good outcome with that situation. I did contact an employment lawyer and had a good experience with hr. The issues were resolved to my satisfaction and things were going great.

I applied for a job in my target department and got it in June. I was so happy to move forward to place I wanted to be. I worked in this department from 2019-2021. I worked in a different department after 2021. So I'm back. I know a lot of people and I'm good with the supervisors in that area too. I have a skill so I can make more money which has been great.

There's a ton of people on vacation right now so I'm training on a lot of new jobs. The one I've been doing for the last 2 weeks is becoming a problem. My partner is awful. He doesn't know how to communicate with me. He butts into every task I'm doing because he's “helping.” I don't want or need his help. He pretends to help me and ignores all the other work on the floor. Then he gets wrapped up in finishing that task so I have to deal with everything else.

We work in a factory. It's loud. We wear earplugs. I call out “hey, can you help me?” He does, then pulls me aside and says I can't say “hey” to him, I have to say “excuse me.” What? Everyone says hey. It's a huge place and you can't know everyone's name. It's totally normal to say that. I had already spoken to the supervisor about him “forgetting” to take his break so he would take the same one as me. Which was a huge pain in the ass because the work builds up and he wouldn't do the priority work when he got back from break anyway, leaving me a ton of crap to deal with. And I had to coordinate with the other buildings because he was busy doing a nothing job.

I'm sick of him jumping into the middle of my job. Literally, he jumped in front of me and got hurt because I can't stop on a dime. I'm carrying heavy things. I also don't knuckle under. I communicate clearly and respect everyone around me. So after I ran into him I talked to my supervisor about it and she said that he's a valuable part of the team and I need to get along with him. It was a whole huge conversation and ultimately, I don't have a leg to stand on to her.

Well, I've been keeping notes. Yesterday he told me, again, to smile. When I was trying to lay down a simple boundary. My ask to him is that he asks me if I need help instead of just jumping in and doing something for me. And that he stays in his area unless I ask him to come into mine. There is also a third person who works with us and I have no trouble communicating and sharing out the work with him.

After, I said I want him to ask me if I need help before he jumps in and stay in his assigned area. He told me I need to smile more. I told him to stop saying that. “Don't tell me to smile, it's rude.” He said “no its not” and told me to smile again. I am furious right now. That was Friday in the first hour. The night did not go well after that.

How am I supposed to work with this guy? He's so lazy and rude to me. He pissed off one of my really high seniority coworkers the other day. I watched it play out and asked her to report it, because I'm getting stonewalled. That led to a 6 person conversation with our supervisor because this guy is awful and everyone knows it. They see how I'm being treated and they're pissed. My supervisor tries to shrug it off as a language issue but he has enough English to tell the younger girls about his gym routine and how much weight he's lost. I even caught him flexing in front of them and that's just gross.

Do I have to mention how many times I'm trying to communicate with him, he just stares at my boobs and does whatever he wants? I'm sick of that too. That's going to start getting a verbal reprimand from me. I'm aggressively holding eye contact now. I didn't notice until a coworker pointed it out. Mostly I ignore him unless I need to engage.

I have a couple of options here. I could talk to a different supervisor. I could also talk to my department manager, I've known him for a while and he did my interview. I could go to hr, they listen to me and go right by the book. I could go back to my lawyer. I have detailed, written notes of way more issues. This guy is a temp, he needs to be invited not to return.

No matter what, I'm not letting this go. So who should I take my book to? I'm leaning towards my department head but I won't allow him to keep my written record. 9 pages isn't a lot to read, is it? Why am I even fighting a crappy temp?

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