My manager told me that going forward that I'm no longer allowed to switch shifts with anyone on staff. When pressed about it he said “When I message you outside work to get coverage you don't reply”. When I'm ready to be a “team player” my privileges (switching shifts) will be reinstated.
I'll admit that I ignore any/all messages sent to me from management at this job. I'm a recovering people pleaser that used to go out of way to do favours for other people. I realized over time that it made me very resentful. I was only doing it to gain acceptance from the people around me.
Now that my boundaries are quite firm (I don't respond to messages outside work) I've run into some issues at work.
This job is only part time for me but the manager would prefer that I prioritize this job over the career that I'm pursuing/went to school for.
My manager is so fed up with “my lack of consideration for others” that he has permanently barred me from asking staff at work to switch shifts with me. I do cover shifts when asked at work but I don't reply outside of work.
He's upset because I refuse to cover his shifts.
Anyone on staff that has my job title (I'm the only one that holds that title/position) is not allowed to take a sick day/call in/switch shifts.
I need to prove that I'm dependable (I work my scheduled shifts and I don't call in) to get my privileges back. That means taking shifts when he calls or texts me and covering his sick days.
The only time I switch shifts is if I know that I'll be working with him alone. It makes me really uncomfortable so I give those shifts away.
This new rule has put me in a tough spot because now I'll have to work shifts with him alone.
I wouldn't be upset with this new rule if it applied to the entire staff. But it's only applies to me.