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They don’t care…even if you’re a high risk pregnancy

For context, I'm in my third trimester of my first pregnancy. I have lupus, autism/adhd, a history of seizures, and other health conditions so it is a high risk pregnancy. Baby is FGR, but otherwise doing well, however we have to go in for checkups and scans twice a week now. Those appointments are pretty long, too. I've dropped my hours to ~30/wk so that I can remain full time and keep benefits while taking it as easy as possible. My position is supervisor over a small bistro that operates inside a hotel. I'm basically the manager and do all inventory, oversee paperwork, etc but am paid hourly and kept a supervisor so that I can also work some tipped shifts. Hourly base is okay, but tips rarely exceed $80 per shift. It's okay, but I also live in a high col area and it really isn't enough for the…


For context, I'm in my third trimester of my first pregnancy. I have lupus, autism/adhd, a history of seizures, and other health conditions so it is a high risk pregnancy. Baby is FGR, but otherwise doing well, however we have to go in for checkups and scans twice a week now. Those appointments are pretty long, too. I've dropped my hours to ~30/wk so that I can remain full time and keep benefits while taking it as easy as possible.

My position is supervisor over a small bistro that operates inside a hotel. I'm basically the manager and do all inventory, oversee paperwork, etc but am paid hourly and kept a supervisor so that I can also work some tipped shifts. Hourly base is okay, but tips rarely exceed $80 per shift. It's okay, but I also live in a high col area and it really isn't enough for the amount of work and responsibility I have.

I've communicated boundaries and doctor notes along the way, both before and after I got pregnant. They weren't super accommodating with my lupus flares, but ironically have been more understanding with pregnancy. Management is mostly women, one of whom has been pregnant…so that helps.

Regardless, we have a big event coming up next week. GM agreed to host a special corporate training which includes in-house catered lunch. The problem is, we just lost several foh (mostly to better jobs) and while I was on a 10 day vacation they went through (and lost) 3 new hires. We have a skeleton crew, mostly management filling in, and our main am cook is on vacation over this event. It's already a stressful disaster on that level.

To make matters worse, I'm scheduled am shifts the next two days, pm shifts over the weekend, and then expected to also be there mon-wed next week over the event. That is 7 days in a row, and I'm not supposed to work even 4 days in a row (and never an am shift after a pm shift). I'm also expected to get inventory done this weekend, on top of the normal shifts, and will also have to juggle a huge food/supply shipment that is coming in for the training. Oh, and it's a kitchen/bartending training so everything needs to be perfectly clean and organized.

If it wasn't for the insurance and short term disability/fmla that I need for maternity leave, I'd be seriously tempted to quit. I've poured my heart and soul into getting this place up and running after covid and carefully planned around and worked toward this event…and this is the thanks I get…

I'm just really overwhelmed and don't know how to communicate boundaries with this. My sciatica has been so painful I've been on mostly bedrest the last 3 days (which I thankfully had off), but I'm so upset that they think they can schedule me 7 days in a row and throw inventory on top of normal shifts! I'm in my 3rd trimester ffs!

I'm going to talk to my Dr on Friday and see what they say, but I really needed to vent about this as it helps fend off the panic attack I'm teetering on. This just really highlighted how little even a decent-ish workplace cares about you at the end of the day.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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