I'm a male, 40, well paid job (~225k living in Europe), guaranteed (government) job and basically doing little work.
Few hours of meetings, rest of time I go to sport all afternoon or in summer in my house by the sea.
However, I was passed on for promotion several times only due to gender aspects and this has really pissed me off as this position was my end goal and what I have always considered my professional target where I would not try to move up afterwards. From the way things are going the chances of grabbing that position in the future are becoming slight to none so I'll be stuck where I am forever.
I would like to absolutely not give a shit and continue doing my minimum given that I would not leave my golden job and have been thinking about alternatives like to get half-time in a few years and leave when I get to 50.
However I can't avoid being mad and I have now found myself actively doing a bad job on purpose, and I generally don't like that feeling. I used to be happy and do my minimum but I find it so much more difficult now and this alters my mood even though I have many reasons to enjoy the good things going for me.
Any tips how not to think about it and overlook it completely so I can get back to my previous self? I don't want to live with that anger and think about it when I wake up in the middle of the night or fill my days with these thoughts…
How do I move on, I have tried to rationalize and objectively I know I have it good but I still can't get over it. What can I do to shake this off?