Pretty much as the title says. I (30F) got chastised at work trying to regroup with my CFO (50ishM) after an online meeting that got heated over peoples tones. Granted the whole office has been stressed lately and tensions are high across departments.
I have ADHD, that comes with Anxiety & depression, TBI from 2 past severe head injuries. The PTSD is a combo childhood and from a domestic abusive relationship. All of this was disclosed at the point of interview before I was hired 4 yrs ago.
During this conversation he stated my tone was defensive and I was getting high pitched. As I was trying to explain my side, he rolled his eyes at me. I asked what it was for. Thats when the flip switched.
He snapped at me that I needed to just sit down and listen. That i need to keep my mouth shut and do as I'm told. I told him I felt he was being disrespectful and talking down to me. The rest of the co versatile went this way.
CFO: “Really? Thats how you speak to me?! Do you know my title?! Do you think I would talk to my boss that way!”
Me:”As a person? I'd hope so”
CFO: “OH so we're equals in your eyes? Ok. Ok. Thats fine. You can get out now. I have a report to get to my boss, we can discuss this later. I'll schedule a meeting”
Me:(shaking from the sudden attack) “No I don't think we will.”
CFO: “Oh really?!”
Me:”Yeah, we will talk once HR is back from vacation, and only then”
I walked out and left for the day and sent an email that due to these events I will be working from home until a conversation is had. I have work from home capabilities and am more productive when I am. I've requested at least 3 WFH days a week, they can only accommodate 1.
I've made multiple requests on just WFH days and being moved to a quieter area (my desk is by reception and sales and is next to the board room that has meetings constantly, and next to the kitchen to the warehouse) to help my productivity.
When I got home I spiraled and had a panic attack for hours. When he snapped it reminded me of the same snap in my DA relationship before my ex nearly killed me (another story).
Its been 24 hours since that happened, im still panicking and shaking. Im terrified of backlash for standing my ground. This is my first Reddit post and im just looking for advice. Im looking into contacting the ADA regarding this
Edit: forgot to provide some information. I am also the only one in my department, doing a job for 2 people. I have worked overtime at least 5 hours every week since I was hired. I have set up the entire department what it is now. In July if this year, my boss quit, her boss was this CFO. It is known across the office that he is the main reason she quit. I have been training my new boss, while also suddenly I am the CO'S personal assistant. On a day to day basis be stops my normal accounting work to send me to pick up food or coffee. Hes even asked me to get his phone from his car for him. For my wedding, he complained anytime the PTO for it was brought up. He reschedules meetings consistently and doesn't show up for half of them. I feel I've been made this mans handler while having to take his shit. This conversation where he yelled at me and treated me like he did, I reached a point of being done