Hi all!
Don't know if this is a rant or if I am looking for some reassurance from strangers on reddit… but anyway… I started a new role in a company I've been with for nearly 10 years. A lot more complex work, loads to learn. It was difficult but I was actually doing great, had a perfect start, felt like I finally got a THE role I was going to be great at, I was like a shining new star, kicking ass already only after couple of months! 3 or 4 months passed and my manager started doubling my work. The more I worked trying to get get things done the more he would add. I mean it was bizzare how unrealist it was, an experienced team member would not have handled it. If I said something he got agressive tone with me saying I am difficult. In the emails he wrote “please always feel free to call me if you need to clarify”, but if I did he was really not happy. If I made a mistake he got seriously p'd off, accusing me being incompetent, no matter how small or irrelavant mistake was – and I started making mistakes because I was overworked, tired, and nervous about his tone with me. After a few months of this I couldnt take it anymore, and I reported his behaviour to his manager and spoke to HR off the record. They took some tasks from me, and things were better for a few months, but I didnt appreciate that the take away was that I am too sensitive and he needs to speak to me differently. When other people were around he was always extra friendly to me.
But it seems like it is starting again. Few days ago he accused me in the email of not doing a certain task. The strange thing was that we just disccussed this task earlier in person how we are going to approach it, so I felt utterly confused as we left it open to confirm. The email again was really rude, he wrote I am no better at this job than a year ago (I am doing well actually), that I am always behind my work etc. I went to his office to discuss and he raised his voice at me how bad I am at my job. I asked him one example of where I am behind my work, and one example that there was a bad business result due to my action. He ignored me and just kept repeating how behind I am. It was a very heated conversation, he was comparing me to a person that just joined the team and is already better (obviously it is not true, that person just got here). So I stood up for my self and told him this is unfair treatment unless he can back it up. It was not pretty.
Why does he has such a go at me I really don't know, but I feel it is affecting my mental health. I asked couple of people for advice, and everybody keeps telling dont quit because then he will win. I dont care about who wins, I want to go to work and not feel anixiety everytime my manager calls me. I have an interview schedueled (I didnt apply, the found me on linkedin) this week. So I dont know what to, should I look into other jobs or will this get better somehow? I like it here, almost no commute, wfh anytime I want, nice people. But I dont want to work like this, and there is no other department to go to in this company, because I like this area of work.
Do you have any experience in this?
Thank you for reading.