So I have a dilemma, that I have solely created and was thinking this bunch would be the least judgmental. I had a job that I worked at since April (Job A), it was a position at a locally owned company. I have been working in my industry for over 10 years, and it really didn’t align with my expectations for pay, workload, benefits, etc. (it was also in a dangerous area, no support or real presence even from the owner, many unprofessional things I haven’t seen in my lifetime). Mid-November I was contacted for an interview for a position with the same workload, no increase in commute and a more than 50% increase in pay. Interview went great and I accepted the position and a start date of this past Monday. So here is the issue, I never told Job A. I did not give notice, I didn’t quit, and I have been stringing the owner along this week while actually working at Job B. They are both full time jobs, 40 hours per week. I have no idea why I have done what I have. I have always given notice, and worked it out – never leaving on a bad note. Job A has been emotionally draining and all of my coworkers were over it, I became really close with my coworkers as the owner is rarely present and doesn’t provide training, we leaned on each other a lot for help. I feel TERRIBLE. I know I should be honest, but at this point I haven’t been and it’s affecting me to the point of not sleeping at night. What would you do? I don’t feel I owe old boss anything, but clearly can’t keep up this charade, and don’t feel it’s fair to my previous coworkers to just fade into oblivion. The coworkers also have no idea I am actually working at a new job, and worse I have been dishonest as to what’s going on. My absence doesn’t increase their workload, it would only affect my old boss. I think a part of me was worried Job B was too good to be true, and I didn’t want to give up Job A and then have nothing if it didn’t work out.
I guess I’m looking for alternatives to coming cleaning and telling the truth to Job A.