I feel like I’m dealing with harassment or just a super toxic coworker. Have worked my ass off at this company and got a promotion but that put a target on my back.
These are the things that have been done by said toxic coworker
• being condescending to me in front of other coworkers
• constantly trying to undermine me and my work in front of my team
• making sexist and homophobic “jokes”
• if I bring up an issue, say I ask him to please not say something because it makes me uncomfortable, in a couple of weeks, he will do it again, then be like “oh, sorry I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable”
• overloads me with tasks with zero guidance after my boss has told him not to do that since I don’t report to him, and then will make public comments when something isn’t done fast enough or correctly
• is always trying to make me look bad to my boss who tells me to ignore it because the work speaks for itself
• makes sly comments any opportunity he gets. An example, I was away because I needed surgery and when I returned to work he made a huge deal that I was able to work from home when I was recovering when my boss doesn’t usually let anyone work from home and this caused issues with coworkers who didn’t know the situation and thought it was favouritism . This happens frequently and any time my boss and I come up with agreements, he will undermine my boss and argue with my boss, and then bring it up to my team and say that “people” take advantage of my boss, he won’t say my name, but give enough information so people know he’s talking about me
Most recently, he asked me on our public chat to do something and I was busy with back to back meetings, and when I had a chance I explained why I couldn’t reply. He told me in front of everyone that I had attitude when I didn’t. I messaged him privately and explained my side, expressed that I didn’t appreciate that he was implying that I had attitude, and explained how doing that publicly could be demoralizing and affect team morale and that I hoped that we didn’t go back to having a toxic work environment (previously we had 4 people quit because he did the same to them, since we have hired new people, the morale has been better since no new employee has experienced this yet). I then apologized if what I said came across in a negative way, but that I would appreciate if going forward he would privately clarify with me first. This was last week, since then, he has been completely ignoring me when I send an email or ask a question on teams but answering everyone else and completely isolating me and stonewalling me.
Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle a situation like this or should I just throw in the towel and take a huge pay cut and go elsewhere