I serve at a restaurant and have a coworker who we’ll call Dan. I’m 25F and just got hired 3 months ago, officially started working 2 months ago. Dan is 45M and has worked there for 11 years.
Dan was super cool and so nice to me all throughout my training and beyond. He was funny, helpful, and never made me feel anything other than supported during my first month. 2 nights ago after I got off work at around 11 pm, I went to a local bar that a lot of my coworkers go to after work. Dan had been there/drinking since 4 pm. Long story short, he immediately asked to have sex when I sat at the bar, grabbed my breasts, told me to kill myself if I wouldn’t have sex with him, and grabbed me pretty aggressively leaving bruises. He was kicked out and I immediately went home. All my coworkers reached out to make sure I was okay and safe, aside from Dan obviously.
Like I said, this was 2 days ago. He no called no showed yesterday, but apparently he cycles like this – binge drinks, no calls/no shows for several shifts, he comes back to work a week later like nothings happened. I work with him for the first time since that incident in about 3 hours. I’ve already been told management won’t care because he’s been there so long. I’m afraid and don’t know what to do.