For context, i put this day in a whole ass month in advanced. It was unsuspecting due to one of my wifes family members getting really sick and basically being on their deathbed. So i really only had a month to put in. Didnt tell my manager the reason because i believe they dont need to know as its personal. Ive only told him about the request to keep some sort of management in the know. But now he messages me saying that there are already too many people who requested off that day.
I dont blame my manager, hes just doing his job, and maybe at my job you have to request way way earlier. But i just want to see how i can proceed. Maybe i should just call out? Or talk to him about why i need the day off?